I am a natural winner

I am a Harmonious Being

I always have a choice

I allow others to be themselves

Healing means to make whole and accept all parts of myself

I let myself out of prison of Guilt

How I healed Psoriasis and You can too!

I had read about this condition in journals and was always fascinated by how it would be to heal it. Never did I think I would manifest it in my own body and would be brought to tears with the thought of having to walk also! In 2011 after my delivery I noticed my feet began to become extremely dry. I dint think much about it since I barely had time to breathe. I was taking care of an infant, working in a high stress job, living in a high stress situation 24 x 7. I was just happy to survive! Around the same time my health kept deteriorating. I was diagnosed with migraine and was put on medication, the stress continued and my ineffective coping style did not make matters any easier for me. I kept beating myself up. It came to a point when my feet started to bleed and walking a single step was excruciating pain. I could not understand what was wrong with me.

During a visit to my parents I showed my feet to them and my father who is also a doctor took me to a dermatologist. I was diagnosed with Psoriasis. When I inquired what is the cause of it? Why now? I was told the same thing that my Neurologist had told me – We don’t know, Stress. I felt helpless, angry. I was in pain, and I wanted someone to relieve it, someone to rescue me. I suffered until 2014. Then during another check-up this time in Dubai also with my dad’s colleague something struck me. The Doctor sat me down and said medication cannot cure it. It can only help you to manage it. You are in Alternate Medicine.. Why don’t you use it to heal yourself? I was dumbstruck! Two weeks later I was on the road of recovery. 1.5 months later I am healed.

How? I was waiting for someone to come and rescue me. I realized I am the ONLY one who could rescue myself. As kids we learnt about Super heroes. Super heroes do exist but as the song “Hero” by Mariah Carrey says there’s a Hero in all of us. We have to be our own hero. So I took responsibility of Standing up for myself. Of protecting myself and for Healing myself. Skin is an organ. It represents our individuality. Every time our individuality is threatened our skin comes under attack. The moment I took notice of that I became aware of the situations where I would be feeling threatened. I started protecting myself better, shielding myself from harsh people and energies. I used various techniques including affirmations such as “I love and approve of myself exactly as I am.” And “I am safe.” I did affirmations 300 times a day. I did mirror work* as prescribed by Louise Hay daily and today I walk without pain.

If I can do it, so can you. Healing is with-in reach… Heal with-in..

*Mirror work is a technique where you look at yourself in the mirror and acknowledge genuine love for yourself. So look yourself in the eyes and you say “I love you (your name), I really love you!” if you find it hard to say this you can also say “I am willing to love you” or “I like you.” My 3 year old son does it and it has had miraculous effects. It has helped us deal with bullies who were troubling him by verbally and physically abusing him earlier.

I am connecting with like-minded people all over the planet

Everything in my life is a mirror

Everything I need comes to me at the perfect time

Everything I do is by choice

Everyone is unique and different

Every illness holds a lesson for me to learn

Each person is part of the harmonious whole

I am willing to let the love in. It is safe to let the love in.

Thoughts - The power of creativity

What is the opposite of “Love”? No, it is not hate. The opposite of love is “Fear”. In life only one can exist. When love exists in your life you are full of faith and you attract prosperity. While when fear envelopes you, you are surrounded with doubts and create tragedies and mis-happenings in your life. It seems as if the entire world is out to get you and you are cornered with no place to escape! You curse life, your circumstances, the people in it, yourself, even God (if you still believe in it/her/him!) and low and behold! More of such mishaps come hurling at you and your loved ones! It’s as if your world is crashing in front of you and all you can do is watch it fall bit by bit… has it happen to you?

2008-2009 was a year like that for me. For that matter this movie began in 2005 when all that I had dreamt of started to fall bit by bit piece by piece until 2011 when I was stripped of all I had and was left with nothing but my soul. I write this article from that knowing. From the point of view of having played the victim and now survived and conquered my circumstances. You too can do it. So listen closely as I unfold the lessons in my articles I learnt interwoven with my story..

I am essentially a story teller. You cannot take that out of me. So here goes. 2005 I graduated from my Masters in Arts degree course in Psychology and as I was finishing the course I was unclear of what I wanted to do. Did I want to study further since my dissertation had been in Death Anxiety and I had conducted pioneering research in the world equating Past Life Therapy with Near Death Experiences? Or, did I want to work as an intern with someone, or join corporates as a Trainer as I always loved training. Choices, so many choices to make! I was also practicing Past life therapy and allied therapies at home and wanted to have a clinic of my own. Right at that time, my dad was posted abroad and I had to drop all these plans, and pack my bags and move to the land of Brian Lara. Was I happy? No. I resisted it with all I had. I was coming from fear. What came thereafter was the opposite of prosperity.

We all have a gift. We are creators. Every second we are creating. We create our lives, we create our present, we create our future. We CHOOSE what we want to experience. This thought was rather radical couple of years back specially in 1995 when I first came across this concept. We create with our Thoughts. Each thought is an affirmation. Every day we get more than 40,000 thoughts! And majority of these thoughts are negative!! Can you now see why our reality is the way it is? The famines, the recession, the lack is only the mirror of what we are constantly thinking and creating. It’s that simple. Change your thought, change your reality. J Simple? Yes. Easy? Well, Yes! It’s all about habit and what you focus on. 

At Heal with-in we teach you how to focus on positive thoughts. How to become aware of the negative ones and weed them out? Some of the negative thoughts may not even be your thought patterns to begin with! They might have been picked up by others – the media, authority figures, the past, anyone but be true for you at present. However, they would be responsible of creating your reality all the same! How fair does that seem? Did you know? You could change that? The power is within you. The only question to begin this journey is - Do you want to re-create your life? Do you want to finally own up the responsibility? 

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Can Past Life Therapy be a substitute for Near-Death Experiences?
by Anubhuti Rattan Maini, M.A. CHt. PLt. Regd. Ht.

Experienced Therapists talk about the observation that after visiting past lives the client overcomes death anxiety. Dr. Raymond Moody and Dr. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross have done extensive research in the field of Near Death Experiences. Though not the same, past life regressions and Near Death Experiences have some similarities and both are claimed to alleviate death anxiety.

Near Death Experiences are experiences of people who are declared dead by the doctors but come alive after some time. This phenomenon is experienced by one in thousands of people. Past life Therapy on the other hand can be done on anyone who wishes to undergo it.

Each one of us lives with the fear of death in some form or the other. If it is not the fear of our death then it is the fear of our loved ones’ death that torments us. The fear of death largely stems from firstly, the fear of ceasing to exist or the finality of death; secondly, the fear of a painful death and of being left all alone during the final moments; thirdly, the fear of losing one’s loved ones and; lastly the fear of the unknown (Rattan, 2007).

The key to “fighting” this fear seems to be to accept death first. Dr. Paul T.P. Wong (1998) has suggested the following Pathways to death acceptance:

·        Life review

·        Self-acceptance

·        Religious/spiritual beliefs

·        Embracing one’s own life

·        Death education

Past Life Therapy and Near Death Experiences

Past life therapy under hypnotherapy uses not only the visualization of one’s own death in a past life but also the life review. The client also realizes that his/her loved ones will be with him/her in some form in the other births, and thus he/she need not worry about losing them. Another fear which may get addressed by Past Life Therapy is that of the unknown. Under hypnosis the client is able to see life after death and thus the process of death and a glimpse of life after death may alleviate the fear of the unknown in this regard. It is also reported by the clients that when they are in the light after their death they feel very peaceful and completely pain-free thus, their death anxiety actually transforms to a sacred love for death. They report, that now they know what death is going to be like, they find worrying about it unnecessary and are able to live a more fulfilling life.

Near Death experience has been reported to have a healing effect on the person (Moody, 1976). However this is an experience which cannot be induced and thus is experienced by only a few. Past Life Therapy which has a lot of similarities in terms of the experience and visions witnessed by people experiencing it may be used as a substitute to bring this healing capacity of Near Death Experiences to the common man who may not have had a Near Death Experiences otherwise. The author attempts to see if Past Life Therapy is really effective and thus a worthwhile mode of treatment to reduce and/or alleviate death anxiety altogether.

Every Past Life Regression is different. Thus it is difficult to generally give an outline of a classic Past life Regression. Yet usually, when a person goes into his/her Past Life it is usually not at the time of death. The person goes through the entire life span jumping from one significant scene to the next. Finally, the person reaches the death scene. The person may feel a lot of grief due to the fact that he/she is about to “lose” their loved ones. Yet the moment they die in the past life they report a sense of peace and calm. They may “float” up to the ceiling and then look down upon their body, their loved ones, doctors, etc. in the room; they may float to them and bid their farewell. They experience “No time and no space,” thus, the moment they think about someone who may be physically in another country; they find themselves in front of the person they had just thought about. They soon spot a brilliant white light usually above them.

They get attracted to the light and float up to it. There they may find someone has come to welcome them – it could be a loved one who has passed on, or an “angel”, or his/her Spirit Guide, or a being of light or even what is God to them (Jesus Christ, Lord Ram, Mother Mary, etc.). The clients have reported that they experience immense unconditional love in this light. The being then takes them lovingly into the light. They then go to a place where there is a huge screen or Panorama of a kind. Then along with the being they view scenes of their life that just ended, as they flash on the screen. The being is uncritical or completely non-judgmental. The client makes any comments that are made. They say they get to feel the effect of their actions while viewing the scenes as not only do they live those scenes but also the effect it had on the others around them. The being only suggests what could have been done differently when asked by the client. The therapist guides the client to do a life review and the reason why his mind took him to this specific Past Life.

Often at this point great learning takes place both for the client and the therapist as this is the point which explains what is causing a problem (of whatever significance it may be) in the client’s current life. The learning then is brought into the current life. The immediate effects of a Past Life Regression are the realization that our loved ones are going to be with us in our life over and over again as we continue to reincarnate. Their roles in our life may change but they usually are present. It is also that the client’s death anxiety goes down sharply. They also make significant changes in life, they may become less abusive and more tolerant with others; they may express their love for others more, etc.

Now let’s see what a classic Near Death Experience is as per the research done by Dr. Raymond Moody (1976, 1978): A man is dying and, as he reaches the point of greatest physical distress, he hears himself pronounced dead by his doctor. He begins to hear an uncomfortable noise, a loud ringing or buzzing, and at the same time he feels himself moving very rapidly through a long tunnel. After this, he suddenly finds himself outside of his own physical body, but still in the immediate physical environment, and he sees his own body from a distance, as though he is a spectator. He watches the resuscitation attempt from this unusual vantage point and is in a state of emotional upheaval.

After a while, he collects himself and becomes more accustomed to his odd condition. He notices that he still has a “body,” but one of a very different nature and with very different powers from the physical body he had left behind. Soon other things begin to happen. Others come to meet and to help him. He glimpses the spirits of relatives and friends who have already died, and a loving, warm spirit of a kind he has never encountered before – a being of light – appears before him. This being asks him a question, non-verbally, to make him evaluate his life and helps him along by showing him a panoramic, instantaneous playback of the major events of his life. At some point he finds himself approaching some sort of barrier or border, apparently representing the limit between earthly life and the next life.

Yet, he finds that he must go back to the earth, that the time for his death has not yet come. At this point he resists, for by now he is taken up with his experiences in the after life and does not want to return. He is overwhelmed by intense feelings of joy, love, and peace. Despite his attitude, though, he somehow reunites with his physical body and lives. Later he tries to tell others, but he has trouble doing so. In the first place, he can find no human words adequate to describe these unearthly episodes. He also finds that others scoff, so he stops telling other people. Still, the experience affects his life profoundly, especially his views about death and its relationship to life.

There are many similarities between the Near Death Experiences and those of the Past Life Regression. The various similarities are:

·   In both, the individual finds himself out of the physical body but in the immediate physical environment.

·        He sees his body from a distance as if he is a spectator.

·    He looks on as the others make last attempts to revive him and he finds himself in a state of emotional upheaval.

·      He notices that he still has a “body,” but it is of a different nature and has different powers than the physical body. He is able to float and travel long distances instantly, he communicates non-verbally by exchange of thoughts directly.

·     “Others” appear before him. He also sees a loving warm spirit - “being of light” who helps in evaluating his life by showing him a panoramic instantaneous playback of the major events of his life.

·        He is overwhelmed by intense feelings of joy, love, and peace.

·        He can find no human words adequate to describe these experiences.

·     The experience affect his life profoundly, especially his views about death and its relationship to life and thus he begins to appreciate life better.

Since there are so many similarities, the author proposes that since Near Death Experiences are experienced by few and they don’t get to choose to experience it, it simply happens to them, then for those, who are not “chosen” but want to experience it Past Life Therapy can be a ready answer, for those who are willing to try it. Also since Near Death Experiences have proven results in reducing Fear of death (Moody 1976, 1978; Kubler-Ross, 1969), then essentially due to the similarities, the Past Life Therapy may also have a healing effect. The advantage being that a person can visit their Past Life more than once, which is not guaranteed in Near Death Experiences. In other words, the author carried out a study to try to see if Past Life Therapy can be an easy alternative to healing obtained by chance by Near Death Experiences and if this is possible, then the study has tried to introduce this option to the society at large for those who would like to utilize its benefits.

References

Kubler-Ross, E. (1969). On Death And Dying. New York: Macmillian.

Moody, R. A. (1976). Life After Life. New York: Bantam Books.

Moody, R. A. (1978). Reflections on Life After Life. New York: Bantam Books.

Rattan, A. (2005). Use of Hypnotherapy to Reduce Death Anxiety. Unpublished Dissertation work.

Rattan, A. (2007). “The Question about Death and Death Anxiety”. Hypnogenesis.

Wong, P. T. P. (1998). “Spirituality, meaning, and successful aging”. In P. T. P. Wong & P. S. Fry (Eds.). The human quest for meaning: A handbook of psychological research and clinical applications. Mahwah, NJ: Lawrence Erlbaum.

The Question about Death and Death Anxiety

by Anubhuti Rattan Maini, M.A. CHt. PLt. Regd. Ht.

Death, a word that can mean the end or the beginning. The interpretation solely depends on how we perceive death to be. If perceived as the end, it can instill a lot of fear and anxiety while if thought of as a beginning it can bring in feelings of calmness, satisfaction and hope. Many of us are troubled by the fear of the ultimate darkness, as we perceive it to be – The Death. Is it really this bleak and dark?

To answer this question let us first understand what Death is. The Oxford Dictionary defines death as the “end of life; ceasing to be; destruction” (1985). In medical terms death is defined as follows: Death: 1. The end of life. The cessation of life. 2. The permanent cessation of all vital bodily functions. 3. The common law standard for determining death is the cessation of all vital functions, traditionally demonstrated by "an absence of spontaneous respiratory and cardiac functions." 4. The uniform determination of death.

The fear of death has been rated as the most common and the second worst fear that troubles us. Many are traumatized long before they near their end from their impending death. Many fear the death of the loved ones. The fear of death is largely due to four reasons. Firstly, the fear of the unknown, secondly, the fear of losing our loved ones, thirdly, fear of pain and suffering and/or being alone at the time of death and finally, the fear of ceasing to exist or the finality of death. Is there a way to overcome it or can we only hear an agonized client while he or she seeks help which prevents them to live the life altogether? Many suffer from death anxiety but are able to function. Yet they fear for their lives and that of their significant others. Death is viewed, as a tragedy. Is it really? Many books, people, cultures, religions and spirituality have talked of death otherwise.

Let's take a look at some of these views. Isaac Asimov the U.S. science fiction novelist and scholar (1920 – 1992) said, “Life is pleasant. Death is peaceful. It's the transition that's troublesome.” Pubilius Syrus (100 B.C.) stated in Maxims, “The fear of death is more to be dreaded than death itself.” The following statements from Bhagavad Gita (250 B.C. – 250 A.D.) in chapter 2 is apt to be quoted here, “For certain is death for the born and certain is birth for the dead, therefore over the inevitable thou shouldst not grieve.” And “Just as a man casts off his worn out clothes and puts on new ones, so also the embodied-self casts off its worn out bodies and enters others which are new.” Hugh Elliott writes in Standing Room Only weblog comments, “I am not dying, not any more than any of us are at any moment. We run, hopefully as fast as we can, and then everyone must stop. We can only choose how to handle the race.” Leonardo da Vinci (1452 – 1519) said as a well-spent day brings happy sleep, so life well used brings happy death. Death is more universal than life, everyone dies but not everyone lives. A well said statement by A. Sachs. Osho's comment on death is, “Life is only one of the ways of death's expression.”

In my Hypnotherapy experience death is not regarded as a tragic event but a celebration and homecoming. It is believed that the soul's home is in the spiritual realm and that it takes birth to experience and learn its lessons. Once the lessons are learnt and the assigned or planned work is completed by the soul, the soul departs for home and the physical body dies. Thus when one dies, hypnotherapy sees it as a joyous moment and not a depressing one (Rattan, 2005).

This brings us to the question what is defined as death anxiety? Death anxiety is the anxiety caused when one is faced by the thought, experience, and/or situation, reading material or mention of death in a conversation or in any other form in our daily life. In other words, fear of death is an intense fear of something that poses no actual danger. While adults with fear of death realize that these fears are irrational, they often find that facing, or even thinking about facing, the feared situation brings on a panic attack or severe anxiety. A morbid or abnormal and persistent fear of death or dying is known as Thanatophobia or Thantophobia while the fear of death or dead objects is known as Necrophobia. Both have the same symptoms.

Symptoms of are:

• Breathlessness
• Excessive sweating
• Nausea or feeling sick
• Dry mouth
• Trembling or shaking
• Palpitations
• Inability to think clearly
• A fear of dying (Death Anxiety) or losing control or becoming mad
• A sensation of detachment from reality or
• A full-blown anxiety attack.

Many people are surprised to learn that they are far from alone to suffer from Death anxiety even though it is surprisingly common, although not often spoken about. The awareness of death's inevitability is the central threat to experiencing a meaningful life (Fisher and Fisher, 1993). Every person is preoccupied with Death anxiety and is persistently defending against it with strategies such as simple denial, religious faith in immortality, exaggerated expectations of medical “cure,” and the acting out of heroic “Nothing can terminate me” fantasies (Becker, 1973; Zilboorg, 1943).

Interestingly, asking people to contemplate their own mortality reliably results in defensive responses even though people do not report being anxious or upset by thoughts of their own death. Becker (1973), in his book The Denial of Death , asserts that the fear of death is natural and present in everyone no matter how disguised it may be. The fear of death is an emotional manifestation of the self-preservation instinct. Most people probably rarely think about death or their ultimate individual value. Rather, they think about their goals and aspirations relevant to their careers, relationships, hobbies, and the means through which these goals are achieved.

The fear of death must be behind all normal functioning in order for people to aim towards self-preservation, but not constantly present in one's mental functioning, else the person could not function. Continued questioning of one's value as a person may ultimately lead one to a direct consideration of death and the experience of existential terror. The fear must be repressed enough to allow us to live comfortably and normally, yet accessible enough to allow us to react appropriately to any threat to our continued existence. Fear keeps us safe; it is adaptive in the sense that it signals the need for behaviour to reduce any threats (Pyszczynski, et. al., 1991). This may be why those persons who have near death experiences tend to rethink their priorities in life—death is a reality check.

Death anxiety is common in our society these days. Lots of people are afraid to die, and there can be endless reasons for this fear. Death anxiety can happen because of some past traumatic event. Maybe you nearly drowned or were in a car accident that almost took your life. It can even be something from your birth that you don't remember, but still affected you in some profound way. Real Beaulieu, a Canadian Primal Therapist states in his article, “Why is death anxiety so common? Because a lot of us… have probably experienced at least one of those near-death events…most likely at or around birth.” The experiences being talked about here are called “first line traumas” in Primal Therapy.

Countless individuals, in therapies that allow access to very early traumas, have relived near-death situations like suffocating at birth (anoxia), being strangled by the umbilical cord, having their head crushed before they could even take their first birth, etc. such early traumas left a profound impression on the organism, a vague feeling that one's life is in danger, an imprint that we could call “Death Anxiety” (Beaulieu, 1986).

Any event that deeply disturbs the “continuum concept” (Lieloff, 1977) of the child is likely to leave him/her with a profound sense of existential danger, something that, long after the traumatic event occurred, we call death anxiety (Beaulieu, 1986). Most counterproductive fears are learned. We are afraid of certain things because our experience tells us that there is real danger, and the “charge value” (Janov, 1983) of a counterproductive fear is directly commensurate with the position in time when the trauma occurred or the state of vulnerability of the organism. The concept of charge value implies that the earlier the trauma, the more devastating its effects will be and the more the individual will be motivated by its force (Beaulieu, 1986).

Dr. Paul T. P. Wong says in his paper that all human drama is, to a great extent, a story of how human beings cope with the terror of death, and how they overcome death anxiety through a great variety of conscious efforts and unconscious defence mechanisms. How we view death and how we cope with death anxiety can profoundly affect every aspect of our lives - either positively or negatively. Such wisdom and courage can only be acquired through accepting death and understanding its meanings.

Many people fear dying more than death itself. Most people are afraid of dying a violent or painful death. They prefer to die in their sleep - without pain and without awareness. Dying can be a positive and rewarding experience; it can be a time of personal freedom and growth. But dying well begins with death acceptance. Furthermore, dying well involves hard work, because dying is more than a physical process. Death is the only certainty in life. All living organisms die; there is no exception. However, human beings alone are burdened with the cognitive capacity to be aware of their own inevitable mortality and to fear what may come afterwards. Furthermore, their capacity to reflect on the meaning of life and death creates additional existential anxiety (Wong, 2002).

To summarise, it seems that each one of us lives with the fear of death in some form or the other. If it is not the fear of our death then it is the dear of our loved ones that torments us. If the theory that fear and death both are just illusions then is it possible that one can “cure” oneself of this anxiety? Would life without this anxiety be more rewarding and fruitful? Would anyone want to live such a life?

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References

Beaulieu, R. (1986). On The Origins of Death Anxiety. Primal Psychotherapy Page.
http://primal-page.com

Becker, E. (1973). The Denial of Death: A Perspective in Psychiatry andAnthropology . New York : Simon & Schuster.

Fisher, R. L. & Fisher, S. (1993). The Psychology of Adaptation to Absurdity:Tactics of Make Believe. Hillsdale , NJ : L. Erlbaum Associates.

Janov, A. (1983). Imprints: The lifelong effects of the birth experience . New York :Coward McCann, Inc.

Liedloff, J. (1977). The Continuum Concept . New York : Perseus Books.

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Pyszczynski, T., Greenberg, J, Solomon, S., & Hamilton, J. (1991). “A Terror

management analysis of self-awareness and anxiety: The hierarchy of terror”. In: Ralf Schwarzer and Robert A. Wicklund (eds.), Anxiety and self-focussed attention . New York : Harwood.

Rattan, A. (2005). Use of Hypnotherapy to Reduce Death Anxiety . UnpublishedDissertation work.

Wong, P. T. P. (2002). “From Death Anxiety to Death Acceptance”. Conference on Life and Death Education in National Changhua University of Education, Taiwan .

Zilboorg, G. (1943). “Fear of death”. Psychoanalytic Quarterly , Vol. 12.